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Frustration From Nothing

I just started listening to The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck by Mark Manson. Perhaps it’s the number of F-bombs being so liberally dropped, but the message has been highly enjoyable and resonating. Within the first chapter, I realized an important inverse point to my post “Who do you envy?” That inverse point being, “Why are you not satisfied with what you do have?”

The desires to always improve and have “more” runs deep within me. Coincidentally, the morning before I started the book, I thought about adequacy of the things I already have. I thought about how my frustration dealing with UPS on the phone for 30 minutes for an object I didn’t need.

I was on hold that morning, just as I was on hold for 20 minutes the night before. I was frustrated. I order a pair of shoes just days earlier, and the shipment was delayed. After the fourth call, I realized I was frustrated seemingly for no good reason.
  1. The shoes I ordered were purely out of pleasure. I didn’t need or really want new shoes. However, the marketing automation gremlins got me with a deal on a pair that were intriguing. If I didn’t see or take advantage of this deal, I would not have been frustrated. I would not have cared.
  2. I signed up for a free service during checkout espousing 2-day shipping. 2-day shipping is my benchmark now that I’m an avid Amazon Prime member. This applies to every merchant for me – and I expect free shipping. However, I received a notification that I would get the shoes in 3 days.
  3. The shoes didn’t arrive on the 3rd day. The courier cited incorrect address for failure/ delay. Except, it’s the right address. The courier’s dispatch couldn’t address this in time for the courier to re-try.
  4. I learned on the 4th day that I wouldn’t get the shoes for another two days. The UPS partner was closed on Saturday.
Too many infractions cut me a frustrated figure. The frustration was borne from a purely pleasure-seeking motive – a needless pair of shoes. From then on, my expectations took over. Despite only recently wanting the shoes, I was surprisingly very frustrated.

Amazing.

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