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Book Review: The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck

F*ck. Grabs your attention, right? Leave it to Mark Manson, then, to write a book titled, “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck”. Call it another “self-improvement” guide to attaining that oh-so-happy-life. Except Mark does so dropping f-bombs. A lot.

As I wrote a couple weeks ago in Frustration from Nothing, the book started to resonate with me from the first chapter. The point in that post and in a recurring theme of the book was being happy with the present – not always striving for more.

Some good tidbits of wisdom in the book:
  • Less about not not giving a f*ck. More about giving the right f*cks. That is, giving f*cks too often and for everything is a waste of time and creates unhappiness. Instead, Mark espouses giving f*cks about the things that matter.
  • Giving the right f*cks requires recalibrating one’s value system. Values are easily said, but more difficult to live and take action of. What one does a conscious decision made and in accordance with one’s values. If actions and words are in conflict, then ones values may actually be different as well.
  • There are always problems. Life is really full of problems, one after another. The result, then, is what problems a person chooses to live with. What problems excite the person.
  • Just do something. Don’t wait for the motivation to do something. Instead, do something, and let the reactions of doing something take over. Action can create motivation.
  • Too often, we get stuck believing in our original beliefs due to the culture we’ve surrounded ourselves with. Traveling enables us to immerse ourselves and experience the cultures and ideas beyond our worlds. Traveling exposes us to thinking beyond our own ideas. Traveling shows us it’s possible to live in a world with completely different values from our own.
Mark Manson’s book was enjoyable not only for resonating with my own ideas, but also shedding light on ideas I hadn’t considered, or considered but didn’t understand – the notion about travel and its ability to show us cultures vastly different from my own, as one example.

Plus, he cusses. A lot. It’s refreshing, too.

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