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5 Common Excuses that Fail to Realize the Real Problem

Common excuses and expressions that fail to realize and address the real problem:
  • “I’m waiting for the right opportunity.” Except, upon digging further, they’re really looking for the “perfect” opportunity. Problem is that there’s rarely any perfect opportunity. We strive for improving and crave being better. That’s incongruent with seeking perfection because by definition, perfection cannot be improved. Instead, realize how imperfect makes perfect.
  • “I’m not flexible enough!” most people tell me when I recommend yoga as a supplemental exercise. That’s silly. You can develop that flexibility through yoga. Too often I hear excuses like this for things like starting a company and starting a blog because “I’m not a writer!” If you start writing a blog, you’re a blogger. You’re a writer. You have to start somewhere.
  • “I don’t have time.” No, no, you’re not making time. You always make time for the things and people who matter like that big interview coming up, or the pipe that burst in the wall… you don’t plan on these things beforehand, but the moment you have these opportunities, you make time.
  • “Yeah, he’s not going to be happy about that.” Instead of owning this unhappiness, the excuse has been made in fear of or in expression of someone else – typically a boss. That’s disappointing. Own it. Why are (or aren’t) you unhappy? Why does it have to be someone else’s unhappiness that motivates you?
  • “Yeah, I can do that. I can do that for you.” That’s pretty much the response I got from a vendor recently. I needed prints done, and I rejected a couple productions because they were terribly off. The person behind the counter didn’t see the problem as poor service and incorrect. Instead, saw this as me wanting it done in a “certain” way. That “certain” way is wanting it done right. It’s not a favor to me. It’s delivery of what I requested and paid for.

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